Female's Guide to Biblical Femininity

Do you feel like you hear the same verses on biblical womanhood over and over?

 

I’ve certainly felt that. Ooookaaaaay, submitting is important. Not sure what that means in real life. And got it, beauty comes from the inside. Eternal beauty matters more than my clothes.

 

However, when I really took some time to research the topic, instead of ignore it because it’s confusing, I found there is a LOT about women in the bible. I find it helpful to categorize verses to help see common themes and messages God confirms over multiple passages. This post doesn’t have commentary on the verses, my encouragement is for you to study, look at more context around the passages, the historical context and wrestle in prayer with these passages in your time with the Lord. What I did in this post is categorize the major topics I noticed and I’m giving you a ton of verses to help you get started in your efforts to seek biblical womanhood in your own life.

 

I sorted them by verses about:

  • Women being equal heirs and of equal importance to God
  • Women being valued
  • Submission & Gender Roles (Includes examples of female biblical action and links to verses about children because I didn’t want to sort those too at this time)
  • Descriptions of female positive influence while also warning against the negative impact women can leave
  • Biblical Beauty

 

Leave a comment with additional verses or thoughts you’d like to add to the conversation once you’ve purused this compilation!

 

Equal Heirs and Importance In the Eyes of God

Galatians 3:26-29 ESV / 387 helpful votes

For in Christ Jesus you are all sons of God, through faith. For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. And if you are Christ's, then you are Abraham's offspring, heirs according to promise.

Galatians 3:28 ESV / 333 helpful votes

There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.

 

1 Corinthians 11:11-12 ESV / 173 helpful votes

Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man nor man of woman; for as woman was made from man, so man is now born of woman. And all things are from God.

Genesis 1:27 ESV / 247 helpful votes

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.

 

Genesis 2:24 ESV / 129 helpful votes

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

 

Women Should Be Valued

Proverbs 31:10-31 ESV / 413 helpful votes

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.

 

Proverbs 3:15-18 ESV / 260 helpful votes

She is more precious than jewels, and nothing you desire can compare with her. Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor. Her ways are ways of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace. She is a tree of life to those who lay hold of her; those who hold her fast are called blessed.

 

Proverbs 12:4 ESV / 383 helpful votes

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones.

 

Proverbs 18:22 ESV / 181 helpful votes

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.

 

Ephesians 5:22 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, …

 

Song of Solomon 4:1 ESV / 103 helpful votes

Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold, you are beautiful! Your eyes are doves behind your veil. Your hair is like a flock of goats leaping down the slopes of Gilead.

Colossians 3:19 ESV / 90 helpful votes

Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.

 

Submission & Gender Roles (Includes examples of female biblical action)

 

Story of Creation & The Fall (there’s a lot more insight to be gained from Genesis about male and females, but this is a start)

Genesis 2:18 ESV / 452 helpful votes

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

Genesis 3:16 ESV / 300 helpful votes

To the woman he said, “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.”

 

Passages from 1 Corinthians

1 Corinthians 11:3 ESV / 337 helpful votes

But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.

1 Corinthians 14:34-35 ESV / 376 helpful votes

The women should keep silent in the churches. For they are not permitted to speak, but should be in submission, as the Law also says. If there is anything they desire to learn, let them ask their husbands at home. For it is shameful for a woman to speak in church.

 

Passages from 1 Timothy

1 Timothy 2:9-15 ESV / 746 helpful votes

Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire,...Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve; and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor. Yet she will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control….

 

1 Timothy 5:14 ESV / 160 helpful votes

So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander.

 

Passage all about Women - Proverbs 31

 

Proverbs 31 Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character

10 [a]A wife of noble character who can find?

   She is worth far more than rubies.

11 Her husband has full confidence in her

   and lacks nothing of value.

12 She brings him good, not harm,

   all the days of her life.

13 She selects wool and flax

   and works with eager hands.

14 She is like the merchant ships,

   bringing her food from afar.

15 She gets up while it is still night;

   she provides food for her family

   and portions for her female servants.

16 She considers a field and buys it;

   out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

17 She sets about her work vigorously;

   her arms are strong for her tasks.

18 She sees that her trading is profitable,

   and her lamp does not go out at night.

19 In her hand she holds the distaff

   and grasps the spindle with her fingers.

20 She opens her arms to the poor

   and extends her hands to the needy.

21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;

   for all of them are clothed in scarlet.

22 She makes coverings for her bed;

   she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,

   where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

24 She makes linen garments and sells them,

   and supplies the merchants with sashes.

25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;

   she can laugh at the days to come.

26 She speaks with wisdom,

   and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

27 She watches over the affairs of her household

   and does not eat the bread of idleness.

28 Her children arise and call her blessed;

   her husband also, and he praises her:

29 “Many women do noble things,

   but you surpass them all.”

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;

   but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,

   and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.


 

Other Passages

Colossians 3:18 ESV / 374 helpful votes

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

 

Ephesians 5:22-33 ESV / 320 helpful votes

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

 

Acts 18:24-26 ESV / 223 helpful votes

Now a Jew named Apollos, a native of Alexandria, came to Ephesus. He was an eloquent man, competent in the Scriptures. He had been instructed in the way of the Lord. And being fervent in spirit, he spoke and taught accurately the things concerning Jesus, though he knew only the baptism of John. He began to speak boldly in the synagogue, but when Priscilla and Aquila heard him, they took him and explained to him the way of God more accurately.

 

Titus 2:3-5 ESV / 770 helpful votes Helpful Not Helpful

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.


 

1 Peter 3:1-6 ESV / 246 helpful votes

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, …

 

Acts 9:36 ESV / 146 helpful votes

Now there was in Joppa a disciple named Tabitha, which, translated, means Dorcas. She was full of good works and acts of charity.

 

1 Peter 3:7 ESV / 139 helpful votes

Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

1 Corinthians 11:3-10 ESV / 139 helpful votes

But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God. Every man who prays or prophesies with his head covered dishonors his head, but every wife who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head, since it is the same as if her head were shaven. For if a wife will not cover her head, then she should cut her hair short. But since it is disgraceful for a wife to cut off her hair or shave her head, let her cover her head. For a man ought not to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of God, but woman is the glory of man. ...

 

Proverbs 6:20 ESV / 135 helpful votes

My son, keep your father's commandment, and forsake not your mother's teaching.

 

Acts 16:14 ESV / 127 helpful votes

One who heard us was a woman named Lydia, from the city of Thyatira, a seller of purple goods, who was a worshiper of God. The Lord opened her heart to pay attention to what was said by Paul.

Romans 16:1-2 ESV / 106 helpful votes

I commend to you our sister Phoebe, a servant of the church at Cenchreae, that you may welcome her in the Lord in a way worthy of the saints, and help her in whatever she may need from you, for she has been a patron of many and of myself as well.

Isaiah 3:12 ESV / 93 helpful votes

My people—infants are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, your guides mislead you and they have swallowed up the course of your paths.

 

Luke 2:36-38 ESV / 70 helpful votes

And there was a prophetess, Anna, the daughter of Phanuel, of the tribe of Asher. She was advanced in years, having lived with her husband seven years from when she was a virgin, and then as a widow until she was eighty-four. She did not depart from the temple, worshiping with fasting and prayer night and day. And coming up at that very hour she began to give thanks to God and to speak of him to all who were waiting for the redemption of Jerusalem.

Romans 16:1-16 ESV / 171 helpful votes

I commend to you our sister Phoebe, a servant of the church at Cenchreae, that you may welcome her in the Lord in a way worthy of the saints, and help her in whatever she may need from you, for she has been a patron of many and of myself as well. Greet Prisca and Aquila, my fellow workers in Christ Jesus, who risked their necks for my life, to whom not only I give thanks but all the churches of the Gentiles give thanks as well. Greet also the church in their house. Greet my beloved Epaenetus, who was the first convert to Christ in Asia. ...

 

Verses About Babies

(Sorry, it's just a link! I didn't want to sort those verses too. But I do believe that all that the bible has to say about babies and children and motherhood should be a part of the conversation around biblical womanhood.)

 

 

Positive Influence & Warnings Against Negative Impact

Proverbs 14:1 ESV / 686 helpful votes

The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.

Proverbs 11:16 ESV / 464 helpful votes

A gracious woman gets honor, and violent men get riches.

 

(Not sure where the second part of that verse is going…more research needed there!)

Proverbs 31:26 ESV / 450 helpful votes

She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.

Proverbs 21:9 ESV / 424 helpful votes

It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.

 

1 Timothy 3:11 ESV / 407 helpful votes

Their wives likewise must be dignified, not slanderers, but sober-minded, faithful in all things.

 

Proverbs 12:4 ESV / 383 helpful votes

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones.

 

Proverbs 21:19 ESV / 291 helpful votes

It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.

Proverbs 19:13 ESV / 276 helpful votes

A foolish son is ruin to his father, and a wife's quarreling is a continual dripping of rain.

Psalm 46:5 ESV / 273 helpful votes

God is in the midst of her; she shall not be moved; God will help her when morning dawns.

 

Proverbs 11:22 ESV / 161 helpful votes

Like a gold ring in a pig's snout is a beautiful woman without discretion.


 

Biblical Beauty

Proverbs 31:25 ESV / 393 helpful votes

Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.

Proverbs 31:30-31 ESV / 398 helpful votes

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.

 

1 Timothy 2:9-10 ESV / 323 helpful votes

Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.

 

1 Peter 3:1-6 ESV / 246 helpful votes

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, …